前言 一份個人宣言 一位演講人站在一群酗酒者面前，決心徹底向這些人證明，酒精無比邪惡。他在講台上，手裡拿著兩個外觀相同、裡面裝有清澈液體的杯子，宣稱其中一個裝的是清水，另一個裝的是純酒。他把一隻小蟲放進裝清水的杯子，每個人都看到，這隻小蟲起先游來游去，後來游向杯子的邊緣，並直接爬上杯口。接著，演講人把這隻小蟲放進裝著純酒的杯子，結果，小蟲在眾目睽睽之下分解了。演講人問道：「你們看，這個故事的寓意是什麼？」會場後排有人相當清楚地回應說：「我覺得它的意思是，如果你喝了酒，體內就絕不會有小蟲。」 這本書裡面有許多「小蟲」－－這些小蟲就是基於你的價值觀、看法、偏見和個人史，你只會聽到和感受到的，你想接收的資訊。對寫作而言，想描述這些自毀的行為及克服自毀行為的方式，是相當棘手的。你或許會說，你想深入檢視自己並期望改變，但你表現出來的行為卻往往是另一回事。改變很困難。或許你跟大多數人一樣，將排除那些支持自我犧牲的感覺和行為的想法視為繁重的任務，你會想完全拒絕它。不過，儘管這本書有「小蟲」存在，我想你會喜歡它，我自己很喜歡！ 而且寫的時候樂在其中。 我認為不應該用輕率的態度來看待心理健康，但也不贊成把心理健康看成是一本正經、充滿晦澀術語的議題。我試著避免使用錯綜複雜的解釋，主要是因為我不相信「快樂」是複雜的事情。 健康是一種自然狀態，我們每個人都了解達到這種狀態的方法。我相信，智慧地結合努力工作、思維清晰、幽默和自信心，是高效益生活的要素。我不相信花俏的公式，也不相信透過歷史回顧來探索你的過往時，會發現因為你小時候受過「嚴格的如廁訓練」，所以其他人應該為你的不快樂負責。 本書描述的是一條獲得幸福快樂的愉快途徑，這個途徑仰賴你為自己負責、對自己作出承諾，再加上對生活的熱愛，以及在當下想選擇成為什麼樣的人。這不是複雜的途徑，而且符合常識，如果你是健康、快樂的人，可能會心想：「我也可以寫這種書。」你說的沒錯，缺乏專業的諮商背景或相關博士學位，一樣可以了解高效益生活的原則。你並不是從課堂上或書本裡學到這些，而是透過追求自身快樂，並針對此事採取行動才學會的。這是我每天從事的工作，同時，我也幫助其他人做出類似的選擇。 本書每一章都仿照心理諮商的方式來撰寫。這種做法的用意，在於盡可能提供自助的機會。每一章都會探索某個特定的誤區（erroneous zone）或某種自毀的行為，並檢視這種行為在我們文化（因此也包括你）中的前例，重點是幫助你了解，為何你會陷入這種自毀的誤區中。接著描述落入這個誤區的特定行為，我們談論的行為類型，是那些似乎完全能夠接受，但其實會對自身幸福造成傷害的日常舉止。書中的例子，並不包括有嚴重情緒困擾的臨床案例，而是人們平日幾乎都會傳送出來的神經質行為訊息。看過誤區的行為後，我們要接著檢視，是哪些因素使你持續做出讓你不快樂的行為，這包含深入檢視促使你維持自毀行為，而非放棄這種行為的心理支持體系（psychological support system）。這個部分試圖回答以下問題：「我應該避免什麼樣的行為？ 」以及「如果這種行為對我有害，為什麼它還持續存在？ 」當你檢視每個誤區時，必然會注意到每一個「獎勵區」（payoff section）都會傳達出類似的訊息，你將發現，保持神經質行為的理由普遍存在於所有的誤區中。基本上，固守已經學會的反應比較安全，即使它具有自毀性質；此外，如果你不去碰觸誤區，你就可以不必改變和負責。在整本書中，這些令人安心和安全的報酬顯而易見，你會開始看到，你的心理支持體系會讓你避免受到責備，並且阻止改變的機會。你是基於同一個原因而維持許多不利自己的行為，認清這項事實將有助於全面成長。排除這些原因，你就可以根除所有的誤區。 本書每一章都會提出一些排除自毀行為的直接策略。這種形式就像輔導諮商，也就是探索難題以及難題浮現之處、檢視這種自毀行為、洞察起因，並且擬出排除這個麻煩區域的策略。 有時候，這種方法會讓你覺得一再重覆。那是個好跡象──一種有效思考的跡象。擔任心理治療師許多年，我知道，有效思考──可以改變自毀行為的思考──並不會只因為說了些什麼就發生，一項洞見必須一而再，再而三地重覆，只有當你完全接受與理解它時，你才能開始改變行為。因此，本書某些篇章必須一再重申某些主題，就像在一系列諮商過程中必須一再提出它們一樣。 本書有兩個中心主題，第一個主題是關於你選擇自己情緒的能力，從你已經做出或未能做出的選擇為出發點，開始檢視你的人生，讓你對「你是什麼」與「你覺得自己如何」負起全責。成為更快樂和更有效益的人，意味著你對現有的選擇更清楚。你是你所有選擇的總和，我「極度」相信，有了適當的激勵與努力，不論你選擇什麼，樣樣都做得到。 本書強調的第二個主題，是把握當下，這個句子會一再反覆出現。要排除誤區並創造自身幸福，關鍵就是把握當下。你能體驗任何事物的時間，就只有一個時刻，那就是「現在」，但你卻一直沈緬於過往或未來的經驗，因而浪擲許多光陰。充分實現你的當下，就是高效益生活的試金石，其實，所有自毀行為（誤區），都是因為一直想生活在其他時刻，而非活在當下。 本書幾乎每一頁都強調「選擇」和「活在當下」。你仔細閱讀之後，會開始自問以前從未想過的問題。「為什麼我現在要選擇覺得沮喪？ 」以及「我如何能夠更有效運用我的當下？ 」一個從誤區走向自立自強和快樂幸福的人，會在內心如此自問。 本書以一個人的簡單形象作為總結：這個人排除了所有的誤區，並生活在自我掌控而非外在控制的情感世界裡。下面提出了二十五個問題，目的在於衡量你選擇幸福及實現幸福的能力，請盡可能客觀地回答問題和評估自己，以及你是如何活在當下。回答「是」，就表示具備個人掌控力和有效的選擇能力。 1.你相信你的思想是屬於自己的嗎？ （第1章） 如果你願意捨棄一生中所學到的許多「應該」或「必須」，那麼在人生的任何時刻，你都可以對上述的所有問題說「是」。真正的抉擇是：你決定要自由自在，還是繼續因為別人對你的期望而受到束縛。 我的朋友桃樂絲．華謝（Doris Warshay）聽了我一場演講後，寫了一首詩送我，詩的名稱就叫〈新方向〉（New Directions）： 我想要盡己所能地行遠， 我想要生活、存在、生存， 我相信，這本書將協助你排除任何可能會阻礙你擁有美麗新體驗的「小蟲」或眼罩，並發現和選擇你自己的新方向。
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Cécile Rischmann Lea el libro, si no lo ha hecho. Es uno de los libros de idiomas más honestos y directos que he leído. Ayuda saber cómo funciona nuestra mente y cómo …moreLea el libro, si no lo ha hecho. Es uno de los libros de idiomas más honestos y directos que he leído. Ayuda saber cómo funciona nuestra mente y cómo podemos usarla para mejorarnos.(less) Community Reviews· 15,435 ratings · 902 reviews Start your review of 為什麼你不敢面對真實的自己？：停止內疚、恐懼，別再製造藉口，過你想過的生活
Many people will hate me for my review, others will be puzzled. But it can save your life. Literally. This book is a fine example of how (literally) dead wrong a guru can be on his ideas and
beliefs, which however seem nice and adorable and people follow them with no further research. There are many, many false ideas, assumptions, conclusions that violate human physiology and how our mind works (which can also affect our health!), such as There are many, many false ideas, assumptions, conclusions that violate human physiology and how our mind works (which can also affect our health!), such as The core philosophy of this book is that we can all change our life just by changing our ideas and beliefs. Although it does spot ideas and beliefs that cause trouble, if fails miserably in how to change them and in fact suggests ways that can be detrimental
to our emotional and, in the end, our physical health. I don't want to sound cruel, but Wayne Dyer failed to choose his own health over illness. He struggled with leukemia for some years and finally died from a heart attack and his people tried to convince us that his cause of death was irrelevant to his illness. Even if it's true, heart attack at 75? A man who had found ways to think positively and live happily without stress? Please spend some good time thinking about it. Biology and
neuroscience have proved the bad effects of ignoring and suppressing our negative thoughts and emotions on our body and eventually our health. Psychology has found ways of intervention that are much more effective and healthy than the ones suggested in this book. What we have here is a book written in 1976 by a man who clearly does not know how our brain works and is lost in phenomenology. By using nice words, comforting language, and blaming "bad thoughts" this book may have affected
millions of people and probably did some damage to many of them. Especially if you are sick, I suggest that you stop reading this book and others like that to save your life. Respect your negative emotions and thoughts and use healthy ways of administering them, changing your mind reality and processes and improving your life such as meditation, mindfulness, contemporary techniques of positive psychology and if things get serious ask for help such as Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioural
Therapy (MCBT), Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or other healthy interventions. This book is so wrong and dangerous that I wouldn't suggest reading it even for the few nice ideas you can find there.
honestly, I don't know why it received a 3 star rating. This book changed my outlook! Dyre teaches us that Approval seeking is engrained in our culture. Some feel guilt and shame and are constantly seeking approval doubting themselves and not being able to decide or process their feelings to acheive compromise or a rational result. They value peoples opinions more than they value their own especially if those people they seek approval of are close and important to them. This develops at a very y honestly, I don't know why it received a 3 star rating. This book changed my outlook! Dyre teaches us that Approval seeking is engrained in our culture. Some feel guilt and shame and are constantly seeking approval doubting themselves and not being able to decide or process their feelings to acheive compromise or a rational result. They value peoples opinions more than they value their own especially if those people they seek approval of are close and important to them. This develops at a very young age. It has to do with self-worth yes, but it develops at school, in our culture, from our parents attitudes. The best thing about this book is it gives you a very nice little test to take to determine which areas you really need to work on, Approval, Self-Love, Perfectionism, etc... I would recommend this book to anyone who has always doubted their own abilities and struggle with dependency and reliance on others to make their decisions for them. It teaches you how to disarm people who criticize you and makes you realize that people have different experiences, right or wrong. If you open yourself up to negativity, to vulnerability, then most people will tend to dump their insecurities on you. It teaches you to accept responsibility for your actions, to stop worrying about the future, to live in the now, and to stop saying sorry and apologizing for every single thing, mistake or not! One more thing, stop asking this or that person if your judgement is right or wrong. Think it through, write the negatives and positives (pros and cons) of feeling the way you do and then rationalize it. This will stop your impulsive behaviour to lash out. You think relationship books helps? THEY DON'T! These books do! If you want to have a meaningful relationship, start by building yourself, by accepting your mistakes, but not beating yourself up for it. The more you think positively, the more radiant and attractive you feel, and the more assertive your behaviour will be. Let me say that I am stating the obvious, and it is easier said than done! But running a marathon will probably be easier than changing your self-defeating habits. It will take time, take focus, (read Think Fast Think Slow) and it will take a lot of verbatim with yourself. Don't expect others to help you along the way, to seek marriage in order to seek security, to seek love for the sake of running away from your problems. The end result is disastrous! Seek instead self-love, self-worth, and accept people for who they are, accept what they say but never internalize it. you never know what people are really thinking, and you can never truly trust a person's judgement until you trust your own first! It is a book I will read and re-read and re-read! The one thing to keep in mind is that you need not only to read but to practice the things you've learned. So stop beating yourself up, compromise, disarm those who feed your negativity, and rationalize by taking nothing personally and start living your life the way you want and stop worrying about what others think of you. Accept love, stop fearing the outcomes, predict nothing, and enjoy every single minute! I hope this helps! ...more
YOUR ERRONEOUS ZONES by Wayne W. Dyer is a book that challenges you to question your emotional habits. Each chapter tackles a different erroneous zone (I.e. self-destructive behaviour) and
walks through why the way we ALWAYS respond to situations isn’t necessarily the BEST way to respond to situations— even if the responses are ones that we as a collective label “normal.” Some of these erroneous zones include seeking approval from others, living in the past, feeding guilt/worry, perfectionism, t YOUR ERRONEOUS ZONES by Wayne W. Dyer is a book that challenges you to question your emotional habits. Each chapter tackles a different
erroneous zone (I.e. self-destructive behaviour) and walks through why the way we ALWAYS respond to situations isn’t necessarily the BEST way to respond to situations— even if the responses are ones that we as a collective label “normal.” Some of these erroneous zones include seeking approval from others, living in the past, feeding guilt/worry, perfectionism, the justice trap, procrastination, and more (hmmm, any of those feel familiar to you?! 😅🙋♀️) What I really appreciated about this
one is the fact that it made me confront a lot of learned responses and think about how they may (or may not) be limiting me. Wayne emphasizes throughout each chapter that our emotions are choices—it often feels easier to submit to feelings of anger/sadness/doubt when they pop up, but we have the power to shift our headspace. We have a choice on what thoughts we choose to feed. The book is direct and doesn’t attempt to cushion hard truths. Although I’m nowhere near being free of every
erroneous zones for the rest of my life (the last chapter walks through the life of a person free of all erroneous zones and I have yet to meet someone that has their shit together at that level LOL), it’s left me more determined to take control over my emotions. Overall, I’m going to be taking a look at Wayne’s other books in the future.... his writing style is really easy to follow, so I’m curious to see what other topics he explores. The book was originally published in the 70s, so
there are definitely some dated examples, but still a lot of stuff relevant to 2021. An easy read that provoked some deep inner work... I suspect that this is one I’m going to reread at different stages of my life. 🙌
The audiobook is only an hour and a half, because it's abridged, but it's packed full of helpful information. Here are my favorite points: We have control of our
feelings. We have the choice of how we process other people's opinion. Esteem lies within you, not in other people. That's why it's called self-esteem. "As you think, so shall you be." "You are what you think about all day long." If you put a label on yourself such as "I am..." and your label becomes your reality, then you're acting on tha We have control of our feelings. We have the choice of how we process other people's opinion. Esteem lies within you, not in other people. That's why it's called self-esteem. "As you think, so shall you be." "You are what you think about all day long." If you put a label on yourself such as "I am..." and your label becomes your reality, then you're acting on that and processing that as who you are. It's a neurosis trap. It's
self-defeating. These "I am" statements are a You can do anything! Don't let an old person move into your body. Guilt is the immobilization of living in the past. It's very powerful and gets people to conform. Ask yourself, "Instead of feeling guilty now, what
could I be doing? What am I avoiding?" Teach people that guilt no longer applies. Worry immobilizes you in the present about the future. Again, what could you be doing now if you didn't worry? Ask yourself, "Does it immobilize me in the present?" If so, then get rid of it. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. For example, you may have a book on your shelf at home for decades before you actually read it and realize how much valuable information it contained. Security
is an illusion. You have to make the decision to change. It's a fear of moving into new territory that keeps you where you are and the fear is only in your mind. A new, healthy, fulfilling, exciting and exquisite life is only a thought away. Don't keep looking for fairness, justice or for everything being exactly equal. Stop comparing yourself to others and keep your nose out of other people's garden. If you want to get ahead in life and all that you know you can make of it,
then you have to say to yourself, "Why am I choosing not to do that?" What you think about expands. If you argue for limitations in your life, that's what you'll get. If you argue for happiness, that's what you'll get. Anything you can visualize you can act upon. You won't be punished I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to read something inspiring that helps you to change your mindset.
I admit to being skeptical of this book before I began. I needed a non-fiction book of some sort to balance my reading diet, and this one had somehow found its way into our bedroom and been staring at me from the
dresser for--well, I suspect several years--so I decided I would at least see what it said. I expected it to be a lot of psychobabble pablum of little value. It was so much worse than that. It hit me wrong twice within the first few pages. First, it made the argument that since we are mo It hit me wrong twice within the first few pages. First, it made the argument that since we are mortal we have only our brief life on earth and therefore should base everything we do on making that as good, in our own view, as we can. Obviously, if he is right then much of what he says follows from it--but I am of the view that this life is just the opening chapter of eternity, and that what we do now matters in eternal terms. I thus had a bad start right there. He then attempted to commandeer the word "intelligence" to mean something other than intelligence. Certainly I can understand that people who are not intelligent can still be wise and smart and clever and capable and successful--indeed, more successful than I. I understand that intelligence, as measured by tests and puzzles and logic problems, is not the be-all and end-all of existence. However, as a person for whom intelligence is perhaps my strongest trait it was offensive to be told that such a thing does not really exist. The author suggested that since anyone can learn anything if he works at it hard and long enough, everyone is really as intelligent as anyone else. Right. Tell it to Einstein. Gradually I began to get the overall theory of the book. People are unhappy in large part because we let other people dictate our view of our selves and our actions. If you want to be happy, you must ignore everything everyone else thinks--peer pressure, parental guidance, schooling, everything you have ever learned, everything society tells you about how you ought to act. In short, you should decide what you want to do and who you want to be, then do that, and not worry about what anyone else thinks. That seems to me to be the definition of sociopathic. He tries to avoid that by hedging here and there. You should not do things simply because everyone else disapproves--doing something for its shock value is just as much being controlled by others as doing things for approval. Ultimately, though, the lines are ephemeral, the boundaries nonexistent, and the direction for finding a happy life is simply to do whatever you want and ignore anyone else who suggests that you are making bad choices. I'm not one for social and societal correctness; I'm pretty bad at it, actually. However, I do perceive major problems with a concept of ignoring the dictates of society. It is bound to interfere with your happiness, whether because it results in exclusion from social gatherings or in incarceration and criminal penalties. The author just assumes that his readers will not go there, without any clear explanation of why. Now, I am probably not the right audience for this book. It was a bestseller, and probably found its audience among middle and upper middle class businessmen and housewives and others--people whose problems in life are mostly that they are stressed about little things. People with real problems in the real world are not going to benefit much from this--the advice that worry has no value probably won't be much use to someone who is certain that he will be evicted or have his car repossessed or his utilities terminated, and he has no means of forestalling it. Of course it has no value; yet the advice to live life as it comes is not very encouraging to those for whom life comes at you fast, as the insurance commercial said. So maybe it would be helpful for some people, but frankly I did not find it to be advice I would apply in my own life or recommend to others--at least, in the main. Here and there I thought there was something of worth, but it was buried in material I would as soon not have read. ...more
This book just makes a lot of sense. It completely blew my mind! Herein, Dyer presents us with a completely different paradigm, a new lens from which to look at ourselves and the world. He introduces very many fundamental principles on right living, most of which we are already aware of, but unwilling to apply or fear the consequences of doing so - being that we live in a society wherein we are constantly bombarded on a daily basis with hundreds of cultural messages that encourages us to obey, t This book just makes a lot of sense. It completely blew my mind! Herein, Dyer presents us with a completely different paradigm, a new lens from which to look at ourselves and the world. He introduces very many fundamental principles on right living, most of which we are already aware of, but unwilling to apply or fear the consequences of doing so - being that we live in a society wherein we are constantly bombarded on a daily basis with hundreds of cultural messages that encourages us to obey, to conform, to think and behave a certain way, to blame, to seek approval & acceptance, to feel guilt, etc. I'm giving myself time digest everything I've read, the paradigm shift I've experienced, then read the book AGAIN before attempting a "proper" review of this amazing piece of work. ...more
I love Wayne Dyer so when I was helping my MIL clear out and organize her huge book collection and found this old gem, I asked if I could have it. Let me tell you, it does not disappoint. Written in 1976 and his first book, it reads like he wrote it last week. Straight forward and real, this book will hit home for everyone! I'm going slow and learning, learning. I love Wayne Dyer so when I was helping my MIL clear out and organize her huge book collection and found this old gem, I asked if I could have it. Let me tell you, it does not disappoint. Written in 1976 and his first book, it reads like he wrote it last week. Straight forward and real, this book will hit home for everyone! I'm going slow and learning, learning. ...more
While the ideas were revolutionary back in 1976 when it was first published. Today this kind of ideas have been over exploited and is difficult to judge based on who published his book
first, who has the better system or who goes into more detail. The true thing is that no matter who you like or how many self-help books you read. Is until you give it a try and start living by these ideas that you'll notice how you are actually and truly able to accomplish whatever you want. The true thing is that no matter who you like or how many self-help books you read. Is until you give it a try and start living by these ideas that you'll notice how you are actually and truly able to accomplish whatever you want.
"Psychotherapist Albert Ellis wrote that Dyer's book Your Erroneous Zones was probably "the worst example" of plagiarism of Ellis' Rational Emotive Therapy (RET). In a 1985 letter to Dyer, Ellis claimed that Dyer had participated in an Ellis workshop on RET before he published Your Erroneous Zones, in which Dyer appeared to understand RET very well. Ellis added that "300 or more people have voluntarily
told me... that [the book] was clearly derived from RET." Dyer never apologized nor expressed "Psychotherapist Albert Ellis wrote that Dyer's book Your Erroneous Zones was probably "the worst example" of plagiarism of Ellis' Rational Emotive Therapy (RET). In a 1985 letter to Dyer, Ellis claimed that Dyer had participated in an Ellis workshop on RET before he published Your Erroneous Zones, in which Dyer appeared to understand RET very well. Ellis
added that "300 or more people have voluntarily told me... that [the book] was clearly derived from RET." Dyer never apologized nor expressed any sense of wrongdoing. Ellis admonished Dyer for unethically and unprofessionally failing to credit Ellis's work as the book's primary source, but expressed overall gratitude for Dyer's work, writing: "Your Erroneous Zones is a good book, ... it has helped a great number of people, and ... it outlines the main principles of RET quite well,... with great
simplicity and clarity." ...hat's off to Albert Ellis! c/o Wikipedia
Your Erroneous Zones is simply one of the greatest self-help books ever written. For people just beginning to read self-help or spiritual books, this book is a great place to start. It is nearly imperative that if one reads any
book by Dr. Wayne Dyer that they start with this book. By reading his books in order of copyright, the amazing shift in his philosophy and interests over the years can be witnessed. Dr. Dyer has written so many books, but important books to follow with this one are "Pulli Your Erroneous Zones is simply one of the greatest self-help books ever written. For people just beginning to read self-help or spiritual books, this book is a great
place to start. It is nearly imperative that if one reads any book by Dr. Wayne Dyer that they start with this book. By reading his books in order of copyright, the amazing shift in his philosophy and interests over the years can be witnessed. Dr. Dyer has written so many books, but important books to follow with this one are "Pulling Your Own Strings," "Your Sacred Self," and "Manifest Your Destiny." Later works include "Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the
Tao." Your Erroneous Zones is a book for people who are just beginning to discover that we all have thoughts that do not serve us towards living a self-fulfilled life. We are given erroneous viewpoints from childhood and can live a more self-actualized life by becoming aware of our self-defeating thoughts. http://www.returnoftheway.com/
This book is O.K. It attempts to correct and manage a culture of excuses. It is a book about the self - about how the individual can activate thoughts and agency to transform their life. The problem is that the book is a context-free zone. In other words, no matter what an individual may experience, it can be changed by thinking differently about it. Unfortunately, this is an inaccurate assumption.
Certainly, there are solid elements of self empowerment in this book. But the understanding of powe Unfortunately, this is an inaccurate assumption. Certainly, there are solid elements of self empowerment in this book. But the understanding of power and injustice is absent.
WARNING - a bitter summary. I saw once a tattoo on someone's arm saying: The book is
300 pages LONG! I don't remember how many times I snoozed while reading this book. The content is super long for something that could be said just in a few words: live in the moment and follow your own rules by simply not caring about what others think of you and not being so uptight about cultural and societal norms. Amen to this. Don't I saw once a tattoo on someone's arm saying: The book is 300 pages LONG! I don't remember how many times I snoozed while reading this book. The content is super long for something that could be said just in a few words: live in the moment and follow your own rules by simply not caring about what others think of you and not being so uptight about cultural and societal norms. Amen to this. Don't know if it's because the author got paid per page and wrote
same things on repeat,
A gem of a short book! Even being one of its first, I found all the content of great value to be super structured to help improve the attitude of people who could be in personal conflicts. The author tells us with a soft, relaxed voice how to achieve positive changes. Each chapter he teaches with phrases and real cases to show up what he suggests, works.
90 percent of our happiness is our own reaction to things and only 10 percent what happens to us. I like this book. I don't agree with all of it but I like it. Good, positive message. I like this book. I don't agree with all of it but I like it. Good, positive message.
made me even more anxious
It's a really amazing book that changed the way I think and act in many aspects of my life. I thought that I didn't like self-help books but this book learnt me in many ways that I should get out of my comfort zone. I think that anyone should read it at least once in his/her life. I will read it again for sure. It's a really amazing book that changed the way I think and act in many aspects of my life. I thought that I didn't like self-help books but this book learnt me in many ways that I should get out of my comfort zone. I think that anyone should read it at least once in his/her life. I will read it again for sure. ...more
Read one Dyer, you've read them all. Only my opinion, Chopra and Dyer were simply another life phase I was going through. I no longer find either of relevance. And, yes that is the best I can do, (notice how memorable they are). Read one Dyer, you've read them all. Only my opinion, Chopra and Dyer were simply another life phase I was going through. I no longer find either of relevance. And, yes that is the best I can do, (notice how memorable they are). ...more
Its life changing book, i enjoyed, i was/am in losing personality state thats why it kind of helped me.
This is the very first "inspirational" or "personal growth" book I read. I read it when I was a senior at the University of Miami and I was taking an inter-personal communications course, and we were required to give a presentation on a book that may have changed our life in some way. I absolutely loved this book, and to this day I still love Wayne Dyer's philosophy. I think a lot of the information in this book may be outdated now (or maybe not), but Wayne has written so many books since this o This is the very first "inspirational" or "personal growth" book I read. I read it when I was a senior at the University of Miami and I was taking an inter-personal communications course, and we were required to give a presentation on a book that may have changed our life in some way. I absolutely loved this book, and to this day I still love Wayne Dyer's philosophy. I think a lot of the information in this book may be outdated now (or maybe not), but Wayne has written so many books since this one, and I've found that his thoughts have evolved greatly since he wrote this. I may pick up a copy of this just to flip through it and see exactly how much he has changed since he wrote this. But for now, I would say that anyone who needs a good shot of inspiration and/or motivation to make some major life changes (and/or changes in your way of thinking about things), would benefit greatly from any of Wayne Dyer's books. Actually, he has such a great speaking voice, I would recommend trying out any of his audio books. ...more
This book was a hot topic when it hit the shelves in the mid ‘70s. I remember some people saying it was no big deal, the ideas in it were just common sense but for a number of us it was revolutionary. Looking back now I
realize those reactions were gender based. Approval seeking, guilt, and dependence, which are covered in the book, were a big part the expected behaviors for women back then but not for the men who thought the book just stated the obvious. Now on rereading it, I’m seeing it clear Now on rereading it, I’m seeing it clearly addressed those types of gender roles. For example, the chapter ‘Declare Your Independence’ focused on submission in relationships and on ways to change those
dynamics. But it bothers me that the advice did not take into account the risk of domestic violence. That and a few other instances made the book feel a little glib and superficial, and, let’s face it, dated. On the plus side, it had some good approaches for procrastinators like me and a sage reminder that anger gets in the way, it is good for nothing. 3½ stars
Terrible title. Life changing book if you are open.
Though sometimes overly colloquial in comparisons and prose, really good expose on the various ways that different neurosis are baked into culture an exacerbated by others.
Explores the "psychological dividends" (fantastic term) of each neurosis. My gems: --"We have many sayings with the built-in message that you are not responsible for how you feel." My gems: --"We have many sayings with the built-in message that you are not responsible for how you feel." Portrait of a person who has eliminated erroneous zones: "They see everyone as having choices, and those pretty things that drive others insane are simply the results of someone else’s decision." --
The title is not what you initially think - read the words again! This is a book that was recommend to me when I was in my early 20s and sufferring from depression. It made a difference then, and today is still has wonderful impact. If there was only one chapter you read, read the last chapter in its entirety. I wish everyone would read this one chapter, and perhaps we would all be a lot less
judgemental and critical, and more honest, helpful and supportive of each other. (view spoiler)[ To give a This is a book that was recommend to me when I was in my early 20s and sufferring from depression. It made a difference then, and today is still has wonderful impact. If there was only one chapter you read, read the last chapter in its
entirety. I wish everyone would read this one chapter, and perhaps we would all be a lot less judgemental and critical, and more honest, helpful and supportive of each other. (view spoiler)[ To give a sense of the wonderful last chapter, here are a few quotes I wanted to share: "...they see independence as superior to dependence in all relationships. They treasure their own freedom from expectations. Their relationships are built upon mutual respect for the right of an
individual to make decisions for himself. Their love involves no imposition of values on the loved one." "when you say something about them they will not be destroyed or immobilized. They will take the data you provide, filter it through their own values and use it for growth." "They don’t laugh at people, they laugh with them. They do laugh at life, and they see the whole thing as fun, even though they are deliberate in their own pursuits." "Doers do. Critics blame and
complain." "They are aggressively curious. They never know enough. They search for more and want to learn each and every present moment of their lives." "They aren’t arguers or hot-headed debaters; they simply state their views, listen to others and recognize the futility of trying to convince someone else to be as they are." "They want to be victorious and effective on their own, rather than gaining through the shortcomings of others." And finally, "They have no heroes or idols. They view all people as human, and they place no one above themselves in importance." (hide spoiler)] ...more
I'm a big fan of Dr. Wayne Dyer. Wisdom of the Ages and The Power of Intention are two of his books I found quite enjoyable. He has a style akin to that of Eckhart Tolle and Neale Donald Walsh;
riding, of course, on the crest of gnostic perception. I found those relatable, practically digestible. Before I pick up a book to read, I make a habit of reading the book's synopsis/blurb to get a fair understanding of what I am to read. I picked up Your Erroneous Zone largely based on the recommendation Before I pick up a book to read, I make a habit of reading the book's synopsis/blurb to get a fair understanding of what I am to read. I picked up Your Erroneous Zone largely based on the recommendation of a good friend, but, I found this book uninspiring. Very uninspiring. The whole concept of the book centres on an
oversimplification of our everyday human psychological/cultural dilemma. Dr Wayne presents a simple solution for each social, emotional, physical traps of the regular human. And the solutions provided are presented as escapes; but I see them rather as an isolation and alienating of the self from niggling disturbances, including family, friends, lovers, unaligned with the self. I'm an optimist, but the reality of our humanity will sometimes present ugly situations and equations that we can
only face realistically. This book was Dr Wayne's first major bestseller. There's the disputation that the theories behind the book were not originally conceived by the Author. Sounds logical. Thankfully, I've found his subsequent books a lot more delightful than this. I look forward to reading his next; see how that stands up and compares against the previous two, which thoroughly endeared me to Dr Wayne.
Nothing new for me but may have application to someone else. Good idea that we can affect change, regardless of how we feel about it. I disagree that we can become anything we want to be. No, we can’t. I could never become a professional opera singer in a major opera house. I could train like one and sing my heart out but my voice quality will never qualify me for the top echelons of singing excellence. Nor could I pump out 10 more children. Well, maybe I could but I’m pretty darn sure my inside Nothing new for me but may have application to someone else. Good idea that we can affect change, regardless of how we feel about it. I disagree that we can become anything we want to be. No, we can’t. I could never become a professional opera singer in a major opera house. I could train like one and sing my heart out but my voice quality will never qualify me for the top echelons of singing excellence. Nor could I pump out 10 more children. Well, maybe I could but I’m pretty darn sure my insides will be on the outside like my before then and there will be no sanity left to save. We all have limitations that need to be honestly acknowledged. When our goals are put in a proper perspective as regards our real limitations (my point), we can work hard to achieve goals; whether we achieve them perfectly or not is irrelevant. That we CAN DO, which is his point. ...more
I do not agree with some of this mans thinking, but it has helped me to find ways to alleviate anger and frustration. My aunt let me borrow this book about 2 years ago, longest it's ever taken me to read a book, I don't like self help books or non fiction... Escaping negative thinking and taking control of your life and emotions may seem far fetched and I feel like a dork for even saying this book helped me at all, but Dr. Wayne W. Dryer has very good points and helpful hints. All in all its on I do not agree with some of this mans thinking, but it has helped me to find ways to alleviate anger and frustration. My aunt let me borrow this book about 2 years ago, longest it's ever taken me to read a book, I don't like self help books or non fiction... Escaping negative thinking and taking control of your life and emotions may seem far fetched and I feel like a dork for even saying this book helped me at all, but Dr. Wayne W. Dryer has very good points and helpful hints. All in all its on you to control your emotions and in the past 2 years since I've started this book, I can honestly say I've vome a long way. ...more
"Your Erroneous Zones" teaches me to control my thoughts and feelings. It emphasizes that there is no point to feel guilty about past actions (since these are done and cannot be undone in the present) and there is no point to worry about the future (we as humans choose to worry about things, but it does not help anything or anyone, really). The main concept is to live in the present situation, be mindful
and become less dependent on other people's feelings and emotions.
Vocalized so many truths clearly and well. We have so much more power than we often choose to give ourselves. Perhaps the words simplify the struggle, but the reality is, that, while hard, we have a great deal of choice in our life reality, much more than we often lay in our hands. This is definitely a book I would recommend. Wayne Walter Dyer was a popular American self-help advocate, author and lecturer. His 1976 book Your Erroneous Zones has sold over 30 million copies and is one of the best-selling books of all time. It is said to have "[brought] humanistic ideas to the masses". He received his D.Ed. degree in counseling from Wayne State University. He was a guidance counselor in Detroit at the high school level and He received his D.Ed. degree in counseling from Wayne State University. He was a guidance counselor in Detroit at the high school level and a professor of counselor education at St. John's
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